Break Up Amid the Pandemic? Here are 6 Practical Tips to Help You Get Through

A break-up amid the global pandemic has been described as a "double dose grief." Here are some tips that you can do to easily recover from pain, according to experts.

It would be difficult for someone to move on, most especially if he came from a long-term relationship. It is not easy to forget someone that you have been with for almost three years or more.

However, a break up does not mean an end. This just means that you just fell in love with each other but you were not really meant to be together forever.

In a report on The Lily, a sexologist and relationship expert shared some four tips on how to cope with a breakup while also coping with a global pandemic. Megan Stubbs, a relationships expert, says we need to shift how we get help.

In addition to that, Marni Feuerman who is a licensed psychotherapist and author said that the stress of being in the middle of a pandemic creates a vulnerability that's likely to make breakups harder right now.

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Here are some of the tips that you should know:

Ask for Help

The first thing that a person usually do after a break up is to share her pain with someone she trusts in her life. But this should not always be the practice.

Stubbs said that you have to communicate with someone who knows how to pass through this process, moving on, but not to ask for your friends who have a more complicated relationship than yours.

Be Kind to Yourself

There is an old quote that said that the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much and forgetting that you are special too. It is normal to feel sad, hurt, angry, confused, and rejected after a breakup.

However, Feuerman urged those who just came from a break up not to be hard on themselves.

She said, "I want people to talk to themselves the way they would talk to a best friend," Stubbs also added "Don't feel [guilty] about feeling sad about your own situation when there is bigger sadness going on."

Make a Clean Break

Feuerman said that one thing that people have now amid the pandemic is the gift of time. She suggests that to avoid feeling being sad and only after a break up, you have to find a new hobby. Something you did not have time to do before because you were spending too much time in your relationship.

She also explained, "You got very used to being around somebody and having your routine together," then you have to replace it with something."

Healing is not a Linear Process

Stubbs reminds everyone "It's not like 'day one, day five, day 10 - I'm great. We're done.' It's going to be a constant up-and-down battle. Give yourself permission to grieve in a variety of ways."

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